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Home Pregnancy Journey LABOUR: PART 2

LABOUR: PART 2

written by Eno April 23, 2018
LABOUR: PART 2

We practically flew to the hospital. It was Sunday morning, most people were in church, so thankfully there was no traffic. We arrived and went straight upstairs. This time, I was escorted to my private ward (which I had requested earlier) and yes, once again, I had my cervix examined! It didn’t get any easier the second time but at least there was good news, I had begun dilating and I was now 2cm. I knew once I was 10cm, it was go time!

I was connected to the CTG machine….again.  My gyno had been called and was on his way. Kobby had also called my mother and brothers and his family to inform them. The doctor on duty walked in.“Looking at my state, how long do you think it will take for me to progress?” I asked the doctor in despair. “Usually every hour you should’ve dilated 1 cm, so in the next 8 hours, I’m sure you would’ve given birth”. Woosh! “8 hours of pain! You know what? I can do it. I just have continue with my breathing exercises and I’ll get through it.” I encouraged myself. After the doctor left, the midwife on duty came in and advised me not to take any pain killers I’m given. She said “It will prolong labour and you will be in pain longer, so avoid it at all cost okay?” I nodded in agreement. Why would I agree to take something that will prolong this painful process?

My mother arrived and shortly after, my gyno also appeared. After examining me, he advised “Eno I don’t think you’ll be having the baby today so maybe you should take some pain killers and rest. It will likely happen tomorrow.” “Doc, I don’t think I need the pain killers and I’m sure I’ll have this baby today. I have to!” I challenged. “You know you don’t get a medal for not taking pain killers right?” he retorted, looking visibly upset. At that point, I could care less. The pain had gotten to an 8 and I was having the contractions every 5-10 minutes. I was sleepy but couldn’t catch any sleep, I was constantly being connected to this annoying CTG machine and I wasn’t dilating any faster! I was in a terrible mood and the last thing I wanted to hear was “You won’t be having the baby today!” Even though my mother and Kobby meant well, I was tired of hearing them helplessly say “Oh sorry sorry “ every time I groaned in pain. My friends who had given birth, were in labour for just a few hours and the baby was out. Why did I have to have this difficult experience?

The gyno eventually left and 5 hours later, the midwife came in to examine my cervix again.  At this point, I had no energy to react to the discomfort. Besides, it was no where near the pain I was currently in. She said “you’re now 3cm”.  Yes, after 5 WHOLE HOURS, I had dilated just 1 more cm. I immediately thought to myself, “ Doc was right. I am not giving birth today.” I could feel tears welling up in my eyes, but I forced myself not to cry. The pain had increased to 9 and it was beyond unbearable. After 2 hours, she came in again and checked, believe it or not I was still at 3cm. I broke down and cried but even my tears were interrupted by the contractions. I had no rest at this point. All sorts of terrible thoughts went through my mind. “Can I make it? Will this ever end?  So women actually go through this and survive? Lord why?” I asked the midwife when I can finally have the epidural. She looked a bit alarmed and asked if I had discussed with my doctor. “Eno you don’t need that, we all did it naturally” my mother chimed in. “MOM I’M NOT YOU!” I snapped. I had run out of patience and I could only see red! The nurse, realizing how upset I was, responded “We don’t administer that very often here but let me speak to the doctor and get back to you. You can only take it when  you’re 4cm okay?”.  “Alright” I retorted.

After a few hours, she got back and advised that I walk up and down the stairs and around the carpark to help speed up the process. Kobby assisted me. I walked a bit and had to stop to breath in and out very heavily to sort of reduce the pain. It was helping a bit but I was also running out of breath at this point and my legs felt weak. We finally headed back to my room after a few minutes. It was now almost midnight and there was no sign of this baby making his debut today. My mother and Kobby both looked so sleepy and I urged them to go home and get some rest and come back in the morning because I needed to be alone with my thoughts at that point. The words of encouragement were going nowhere and I knew I had become intolerable. They understood and left and assured me they would be back early that morning. Once they had left, I called the new midwife who was now on duty and asked her for some pain killers. At this point, with or without the painkillers, I wasn’t making much progress so I might as well take something before I pass out. She quickly brought them to me and said “These ones are very mild, they will help you sleep a bit but it won’t affect your progress in any way”.I nodded and quickly gulped them down. Amazingly, I drifted off to sleep.

After 2 hours of sleep, I woke up at exactly 2am in pain! I felt the urge to pee and with every step I took I had a contraction that was followed by blood. I was dripping blood on the floor as I walked and I immediately knew it wasn’t a good sign. I pressed the nurse’s bell and she came in after 30 whole minutes. Without finding out what I needed she whispered “ Just continue doing your breathing exercises and drinking water, you’ll be fine” Then she dashed out. I was left in agony till about 4:30am when I realized I had finally reached my threshold and could no longer do this anymore. I pressed the bell once more. The midwife came in this time, also after 30 minutes. “ I really can’t do this anymore, you need to induce me now!” I blurted. “Alright alright, let me get my things and see how far you’ve dilated.” she rushed out. After another 40 minutes she came in with the dreaded CTG machine and I yelled “No! I can’t lie still one more time. Please induce me now! I’m exhausted!” “Hmm alright then, let me check your cervix at least” she said. She inserted her fingers in and…….she shrieked “OH MY GOD! You’re 8cm, we need to get to the labour ward now!!!” I didn’t have the energy to roll my eyes. I was just glad the end was near. Another nurse came and assisted as they put me in a wheelchair and wheeled me off to the labour ward. I thought about calling Kobby but there was nothing I could do at that point.

We got to the ward and I was transferred to the bed. I saw the midwife frantically trying to put everything in order and then Kobby appeared at exactly 6am! I was so happy and relieved. He helped her wheel in the drip stand and she hang the drip and connected me to it. She also pulled out the leg supports and I immediately positioned my legs on them. Like clockwork, without being asked to, I felt this sudden urge to push so I did. The only problem was, I wasn’t actually pushing, more like screaming. The midwife jumped to my side and told me not to use up all my energy screaming and that I should rather push as if I was having a bowel movement. So essentially pursing my lips and clenching while making the “mmmm” sound. I begun to do that, using the little energy I had left and it seemed to be working. Kobby held my hand and kept encouraging me saying “I can see his head, keep going, you can do it”. Unfortunately, I couldn’t do it. I had used up all my energy and anytime I stopped pushing, his head went right back in there. I thought anytime I pushed, his head would come out to a point, I could rest a bit and then we would continue where we left off. It didn’t work that way and we were getting nowhere.

The midwife said to me “Eno I’m going to have to perform an episiotomy”. Noooooo the last thing I wanted was to get cut. At this point, I didn’t have a choice. She pulled out the scissors and zip! She made an incision and blood gushed out! I shrieked in pain! Kobby who had planned to film the entire thing, was unable to, as his knees became so weak, he was now leaning on me and I wanted to push him off! I had no time to get over my pain. I had to go right back to pushing and so I did and she helped bring out his head. Finally, his head was out and she wiggled his shoulders out and his entire body followed. Monday, 20th November, 6:20 am, my 3.1kilo baby was finally out! The pain also seized immediately. His umbilical cord was tied around his neck and she calmly but quickly cut it off and put him on me to hold. I could barely move my arms to hold him. I remember watching movies where the mom holds her baby in her arms for the first time and I longed for that, but I was still recovering from what I had just been through. I barely held him when another midwife came in to pick him up to wash the blood off him. I was in a daze and I just stared blankly at the wall, wondering how I had just survived that.

I didn’t have much time with my thoughts because it was now time to deliver the placenta. Thankfully, that didn’t require too much pushing. She massaged my abdomen a bit and it was out. She also had to insert her fingers again and clear out every blood clot because leaving any in could be fatal. She then inserted a big chunk of cotton wool inside me and then injected me with anaesthesia for the stitches.  She stitched me up and FINALLY I was done! What an ORDEAL!

I was wheeled back to my room and Kobby came in with the midwife and the baby who was now fast asleep. We left him to sleep because he had also had a long journey after all.

I, on the other hand, felt like I hadn’t eaten my WHOLE life. My breakfast was ready and I ate it all to the amazement of Kobby who was gazing at me in awe and had clearly not gotten over what had just happened. My mother and brothers arrived and true to her dramatic ways, she came in with a scarf singing praises to God and tying my hair with it(  nope, I have no idea what the tying of the scarf means lol). Kobby sent messages to all my friends informing them I had just given birth safely and some of them rushed over from work. His family also passed by and we had a full room. After narrating my ordeal over and over, everyone left and I finally got the chance to sleep! After a few hours, I woke up and gazed at my baby and suddenly all the pain was worth it. I marvelled at all mothers who had done this over and over especially mine, and I suddenly had the utmost respect for her.  It is truly a rewarding task that changes you forever!

On the other hand, the hard work was about to begin. I had a WHOLE human being to take care of and I wasn’t sure if I had gotten enough rest for this journey of a lifetime called MOTHERHOOD.

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55 comments

Maame April 23, 2018 - 1:28 pm

you’re such a great writer, i just had a baby ?

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 2:55 pm

?? aww thank you!

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DAPHNE April 25, 2018 - 3:33 pm

ONLY few are gifted with such impeccable writing skills

well done Eno and Congratulations once again

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Eno April 27, 2018 - 6:50 am

Wow! Thanks so much for your kind words!❤️❤️❤️

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Tutuwa April 23, 2018 - 2:11 pm

You’re superwoman! Congratulations again, and all glory be to God!

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 2:57 pm

Nothing short of a miracle! Thank you hun! ❤️

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Yvette (holico) April 23, 2018 - 2:18 pm

Wow… My husband is also 20th November… Congrats again Eno

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 2:58 pm

Aww that’s nice. Thanks Yvette❤️

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Naa April 23, 2018 - 2:36 pm

Eno. Thanks for sharing you are a strong woman.
We need to hear from Kobby. I’m due in a few months. My worst fear is “cutting”. How is the healing process and how is sex afterwards. Please email the truth to me if it can’t be replied here. I would be very grateful

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 2:55 pm

Hi Naa. Yea I’m told people want to know his thoughts as well so he might share that. He’s not big on writing so i’ll have to really convince him lol. Yes I’m planning on writing on the healing process and sex as well so don’t worry i’ll share all that. Stay tuned!

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Paula April 23, 2018 - 3:13 pm

I enjoyed reading every word. Kobby feeling weak in his knees got me laughing so hard. And yes he needs to share his experience too.

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 4:24 pm

Lol!! I hope he does! Thanks for reading

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Eugenia( holico) April 23, 2018 - 4:56 pm

Aww.. Eno this is wonderful and amazing.. you have to seriously consider adding writing to your trade. You are an amazing writer. Well done!!! So happy for you!

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 10:16 pm

Thanks so much Eugenia! Wow maybe I will. ❤️❤️❤️

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Linda April 23, 2018 - 5:16 pm

Amazing!! You were brilliant!! All mothers are superheroes! Eno gye wo two✌wae!

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 10:13 pm

Haha! Thank you!

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Maame Nyarko Osei-Safo April 23, 2018 - 5:35 pm

Awwwww….I can’t stop crying????. When you spoke about how she pulled out a scissors and cut you open!!! Hmmmm we thank God o….allow your mother to function and sing the praises wai na w’abr3…..ei. By the way when should we expect baby number 2!!?? Congratulations once again. May the Lord give you strength to take care of him??

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 10:15 pm

Lol baby number one is still a baby so not anytime soon. Amen! Thanks hun??

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Kim April 23, 2018 - 5:42 pm

I was extremely tense reading this and now I need to lie down. Wow

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 10:19 pm

???? hope you’ve had enough rest now. If I could do this anyone can.

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Deeya April 25, 2018 - 5:26 pm

Tbh same!! Your writing is so beautiful Eno. Felt like I was right there in the labor ward with you lol

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Eno April 27, 2018 - 6:53 am

Aww thank you hun!! ??

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Dzidzor April 23, 2018 - 9:38 pm

Awww bless u!❤️
God is Amazing
I can definitely testify to the big appetite right after delivering a baby!

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Eno April 23, 2018 - 10:18 pm

He is truly amazing! Lol the hunger is real!?

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Ekua April 23, 2018 - 10:45 pm

Wow! Eno, you should totally considering writing a book! You gave me chills the whole time! I was sort of scared but then again I feel like I can do it too when it’s my turn. Congrats superwoman!! ?

And oh yes….we want to hear from Kobby and his quivering knees ? ?

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Eno April 24, 2018 - 12:43 pm

Yes you can definitely do it! In fact if I could do it then anyone can. Thank you so much! Yes I hope he writes ?

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Kweku April 24, 2018 - 3:20 am

I might just be about the first guy to read all your blog entries from krenkren to krankran and comment to say that I have been thrilled!!! Lol…Love your writing and your stories. Looking forward to the next!!

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Eno April 24, 2018 - 12:40 pm

“Krenkren to krankran” that cracked me up! ??? Good to know you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading!

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Stacey April 24, 2018 - 7:13 am

This is beautiful. You have a way with words. Congrats on the lil gentlman. Motherhood is a journey, and am sure you will do beautiful, you have a good heart, your son is blessed to have you as a mother.

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Eno April 24, 2018 - 12:44 pm

Aww thanks Stacey for your kind words! ❤️❤️❤️

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Flavia April 24, 2018 - 7:32 am

Its Flavia again.. This post got me crying n imagining ur little self going through all this.. Congrats dear

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Eno April 24, 2018 - 12:45 pm

Aww thank you!

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Reggie April 24, 2018 - 5:15 pm

Vivid and beautifully written. I am 3.5 months pregnant so reading this gave me chills. I can’t wait to read the healing process. Kudos fellow hopsan!

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Eno April 27, 2018 - 6:48 am

Aww Congratulations! You will have a much easier experience so don’t worry. Yes will do a post on that in just a bit.

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Keni Kodjo April 26, 2018 - 12:34 pm

I laughed so many times while reading this post. Thanks for sharing, Eno and congratulations!

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Eno April 27, 2018 - 6:44 am

Lol! Thank you hun❤️

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Kakra April 27, 2018 - 11:47 am

Beautifully written .?super mom .congrats
Your son shares a birthday with my son 20/11/17…

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Eno April 27, 2018 - 12:25 pm

Thank you!! Aww that’s amazing! Birthday twins

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Mina April 27, 2018 - 5:53 pm

Hmmm the pain when they insert their fingers to check how far you’ve dilated…terrible! As for the stitches..

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Eno April 27, 2018 - 6:36 pm

Gosh! It’s the worst

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Meeya June 12, 2018 - 9:39 pm

Wooooow, this is eye-opening. Thanks for being this vivid in your writing. Congratulations

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Eno June 13, 2018 - 6:55 am

Thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️

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Salma September 9, 2018 - 1:14 am

owwww…..this was captivating. I literally teared up a little towards the end. This actually gave me mixed feelings haha,,,I couldnt help but laugh at the part where Kobby leaned on you while you were in pain and you thought of pushing him away lol. You’re blessed dear, you survived having your bundle of joy :). I must admit your expeerience has been an eye opener BIG TIME. I try my possible best not to focus on how painful it could get and truth is I’ve been unable to imagine it. However, the in depth narration of your experience has helped me to sort of put things into perspective. I need to psych up properly. Thanks so much for this, God bless 🙂

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Eno September 14, 2018 - 11:12 pm

I can also look back and laugh now but it wasn’t easy . The good thing is knowing you’ll be fine afterwards. You will heal in no time and get on with your life and probably even forget the pain lol. All the best!

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Kuukua Asante October 3, 2018 - 8:24 pm

I’ve never heard or read a more vivid, captivating, minute by minute account of child birth by a Ghanaian woman. Thank you for documenting your journey, and for sharing it with us.

I was annoyed that the healthcare officials didn’t listen to you when you told them about your own body. I was in awe of your strength and courage through it all. I was anxious for your husband (I wonder how he got home,and if he even slept lol). And I am happy that it all ended very well. I think your mum is awesome btw.Thanks for sharing Eno

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Eno October 31, 2018 - 12:29 am

Haha! My husband had some sleepless nights after that but I’m happy to say he’s over it now lol! Thanks for reading ❤️

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Maame Nyarko Osei-Safo October 21, 2018 - 9:25 pm

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Jay February 22, 2019 - 1:22 pm

Whoooooosh!!!!! Chills chills chills!!!! I’d admit I’m scared.. ????

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Eno February 26, 2019 - 11:34 am

Oh don’t be. Haha! I’m still alive and well lol!

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Kafui March 18, 2019 - 9:30 pm

Childbirth seems a much bigger deal than Hollywood makes it look. I’m now reading this . Close to a year after you posted.
Your hospital staff seem very polite and welcoming. Which hospital did you have DJ in?

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Eno March 24, 2019 - 3:59 am

Delivered at Lister Hospital. Yes they were very warm and professional. I would recommend them any day.

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Annie April 18, 2019 - 8:10 am

Reading this has given me a whole new view of delivery. From the medical students view, when a woman isnt pushing hard and the baby keeps going back in we get frustrated coz all the possible bad things that could happen flood our minds and we are like, ” oh for real this woman shd just push a bit harder so the baby doesnt suffocate or breathe in the fluids and die ” But its harder than we think and i think from now im gonna cut them some slack and be more supportive. Also we are interested in signing off the delivery process as just another procedure we have witnessed as part of our requirements as students, but its actually a whole precious moment in every single mom no matter how many times she has done it. Thanks for sharing this!. I love it.

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Eno April 18, 2019 - 11:12 am

Wow!I’ve been so enlightened knowing the thought process of the other side.It’s truly harder than you think and we are never taught the implications of not pushing hard enough or how exactly to push. It’s a whole different experience. You’re most welcome and thanks for this insight

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Porsche May 10, 2020 - 3:33 am

Whooosh I’m restless reading this, I couldn’t finish reading. God. Thank God for your life and the baby

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Eno May 30, 2020 - 11:27 pm

It’s such a miraculous experience. Thank God for His mercies

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